It's still football season-when's my bye week?

[reachingHigher]

If its any consolation, my H was also one to follow through with a decision. That's why he had to cling to the mantra for so long, "I'm never coming back."

And he also followed the same pattern -- periods of closeness followed by periods of D talk.

And I was firm about my needs, financial and otherwise, in D settlement. I can assure you H went away feeling plenty sorry for himself but I had it all written on paper (budget, and so on) so he couldn't deny me what the boys and I needed.

But he kept saying how poor he would be and how long it would take him to start over (I'm playing the violin for his sorrow.)

All that was true. But I was kind but firm.

You can do this Mm. And you are doing it. She is asking for space, a D. She is afraid. She thinks she isn't good enuf to be your spouse, IMO. When she gets to the other side she will see what a treasure you are. And she will also recognize her own value. She won't be a lost "daddy's girl" any more, she will be a valued mom and treasured wife!