Non-negotiables: Admittance of affair End of affair Therapy An effort on his part - through consistent actions - that he wants me and our M
RH, I agree with TVS. You are too hard on yourself. You went from the craziness of a near-D to reconciliation. We were there. I remember the transformation. This entire year has been such a wonderful blessing.
At the same time, you have been forced to put your feelings aside to some degree in order to help your H along. YOu have been the stronger of the two of you for the past several years and it's been necessary to shelf some of your feelings in order to bring about this reconciliation. It's only natural to do that when your spouse is still somewhat fragile but willing to work on the relationship.
I think sometimes how, those of us still estranged or heading for divorce are maybe--yes, I'm gonna say luckier-in some respects because we've been completely free to let it out and get down to those really ugly feelings.
You've been a great example and help to everyone here and to your spouse. Maybe it's time--maybe the relationship is safe enough now?-- to give yourself some more space to ease up on yourself and let out some of those feelings that maybe couldn't be released before?
IDK. I know you have worked hard on yourself--I don't mean to sound like you haven't--I just think it would be natural to have some gunk down deep--in a vault-hidden away from a spouse that maybe, just maybe, you are still a lil worried may jump off the deepend again?
Much Love,
Heather
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