CC, you HAVE to feel like a whirligig right now. This is not the time to have this conversation with him.
Unless there is some pressing financial issue, I would hold off having any talk with your H or seeing your H for at least a week. Give yourself a chance to digest this information and gain some perspective.
If you bring this stuff up with him, in all likelihood--like 99.9%--you WON'T get the truth from him. Especially now.
I hear you spinning out and you have to be the one to pull it back together. Your H won't be able to provide any comfort right now--even if he does give you support via talk, it's only going to go so deep. Then, when you realize you have been lied to again--you will feel even worse than you do right now.
Protect your heart. Your H isn't a safe person right now.
I'm sorry.
That's my opinion, take it for what it's worth. .02
Heather
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
