ssmguy, sorry if I missed this, but have you two gone to MC? I know there are Cs who specialize in this kind of stuff. I wish I could beat some sense into your W; I really do.
Yes, we've been to both MC and sex therapy. It helped us separate our sexual differences so they don't spill over into everything else that we value. So we both practice love and respect and care for each other's feelings. But it's like brother and sister.
My wife didn't want to continue with the therapy however, especially the sex therapy. I think she felt that it was zeroing in too much on her sexual issues, like never having had an orgasm and not ever even trying to have one, or letting me try to give her one. She never allowed any touching that could help her have one. I don't know what it is -- some kind of total blockage and uptightness around that whole topic for her, which I never understood. She wouldn't talk about it in therapy either.
