"It really feels like we are not on the same page regarding these posts. From my point of view, it feels like I'm being attacked and you think I'm being defensive"
Go back and read the posts. You're not being "attacked" that's just how YOU CHOOSE to interpret what is being said.
You're the one that wrote those things, not me. In your writings you do come across as defensive. The key to successful DBing is to REALLY comprehend what is being explained to you by looking at the other POV.
I obviously haven't explained everything regarding my story. I also said it "feels" like I'm being attacked. I have seen from my W's point of view. That's why I'm continuing to find things about me to change. I've been looking for 2 years and she hasn't at all. My counselor calls my w immature. She was not perfect, fact. And what I mean by perfect is that she does have serious issues. Issues I've tried explaining but it seems like her being depressed and suicidal is my fault too?
Also, how does me saying she wasn't perfect either, an example of me being defensive? You calling me something that I'm not is an attack. It seems you are just picking and choosing things from my posts. After i said im not trying to sound defensive, i wrote "I'm just trying my best to tell my story as it was". I'm being as honest as I can to illustrate what exactly went on in my relationship.
I have aquired lots of tools over the last couple of years. I'm just looking to gather more info here. I'm free to post here if I want regardless if you think I'm being defensive. I have already gained some insight from other posters.
Your very first post didnt help at all. Telling me that people here are regular people who are not obligated to post. Telling me to understand that right off the bat. Obviously I'm choosing to view your comment as rude just like you chose to view my comment about no responses as me being impatient. My comment was only in response to me getting responses while on moderation and people asking if I'm still here. I thought it was kinda funny.
Me-35 Com law-28 S-3 T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu 1st bu- 2/2012 Rec-4/2013 2nd bu-10/2013 IC-2 yrs(anger issues) MC- 5 mnths-fail OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14 New OM ~10/4/14
