It's Not Over 'Till It's Over

[jp787]

I think you need to back far away from her right now, from what you have said, this will be very hard for you.

It's difficult to back far away when I see her every 2 days to pick up/drop off my son and she is also now seeking discussions between us about our finances and marital home.
I didn’t phrase that very well… I would suggest trying to work on detaching from her, emotionally. You will need to interact as you are M and have a child.

Take some time and look within yourself, I think there is a lot of anger and hurt in there...

There is certainly lots or anger and hurt in there. I feel angry that she is just giving up without trying when she promised me "for better or worse" and hurt that she can just go from a 14 year relationship to being so cold.

The hardest thing is how cold she is being about everything, her refusal to talk, she has just completely shut herself off.

I’m sure that is very frustrating for you. My thought was to look inside yourself for anger and hurt that has been there longer, maybe longer than your marriage.

I feel angry that she is just giving up without trying when she promised me "for better or worse" and hurt that she can just go from a 14 year relationship to being so cold.

It sure looks like that is what she has done and in time you will find out that she most likely has been trying for a very long time and you didn’t see it, very common, unfortunately for many of us.

Your running on your emotions and they are feeding your pain. Try to take a breath and then breathe. Find some things that you like to do, GAL. Work on getting your mind away from your W and M right now, walk, jog, paint, cut wood, cook, lift weights. I know it’s hard, yet letting your emotions run you will make it worse.

Hang in there, this takes time