There...and Back Again

[subguy]

I am in therapy again, not for the divorce or break up, but to try to understand what makes me do the stupid things I do.

Because your human, now is the time to move forward. Try not to beat yourself up to bad, make the changes for you to be better.

I am now trying to reconnect with friends I have neglected for years. I have opened up communication with my exwife in the hopes of seeing my son and also to be on better terms with her. Basically I am trying to make the better choices, not be pretentious and just be a much better person all around.

Thats good, reconnect and build trust with your family and friends. Do you think you used this lady as an escape from the pain of your D? Have you read co-dependent no more?

This is going to take some time but I now see what I should have done 7 years ago; crazy as that sounds

Take the time to work on you. I have been 1 year since my X moved out and a few months since the D was final... I'm still working on me before I jump into the dating pool. I don't want to rush into anything until I'm ready.

So I guess the question is whether I should continue limited contact with A or just walk away?

I guess that depends on her, if she says she does not want contact then what can you do? Walk away is a harsh term, I say work on you and be available if she chooses to communicate with you. GAL, read maybe pay for coaching def. continue with IC.

Good luck 51, I hate that you find yourself here however there is a bunch of great people here.