Ok reread 37 rules and will make part of my morning routine for a while.

Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
Originally Posted By: juliegayle

So now I don't ask anything. I understand this is taking the pressure off him. But. . Aren't I also opening the door for hin to develop a deeper connection with OW?


Ironically it's usually the opposite that does that. If you are constantly berating him for his affair and you get others to do the same (family, friends, pastor, etc.) then it drives him closer to OW and they feel like it's them against the world.


It just feels like I am saying "have at it and have fun with her." Rationally I get what you are saying is true. My FIL asked what was going on. I didn't give any details but he is a smart man and has eyes. He told me the " if you love someone set them free" quote.

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15