Mine to Hers MLC

[goodmannow]

Underdog, thank you for your reply. You can not hurt my feelings, trust me. I've beat myself up enough, I know where my faults lye. I have pondered them over and over again in my head. I read other stories on this board about the behavior of men in MLC and I think, my god how and why does this wife put up with that.
Seems they love their husbands so much that they are willing to wait it out and hope for the best. As I said my ex was a very shy quit person and never laid it on the line. There was never a "or else" moment. Never a word of "you need to do this" or "in 6 months if you haven't.....I will file for divorce." Sometimes I think that maybe she didn't really love me like other spouses seem to love theirs. Anything, a trial separation or file for divorce and get out. I know it's a done deal now, but affairs and leaving for your affair partner, that's just plan wrong.
Why does MLC happen? Unsettled things from my past? I know I did things wrong but in 33 years I did her thousand and thousand of good deeds. Told her thousands of times how pretty and beautiful she was. I worked my fingers to the bone for our family, I hit rock bottom and she jumped to another man whom had not lifted a finger for her.