Quarter Life Crisis?

[Truegritter]

Sorry Gurl your posts weren't showing up because you were on moderation

True-
And I don't mean for your H to come around.

I mean for you to walk this journey.

If

You want to.
Can you clarify what you mean by this? If I want to? I feel like I HAVE to...how can I not? I see that this is changing me. I like it. Just looking for clarity.

You don't have to do anything.

You may say you HAVE to because that is who you are and how you view commitment to your M

THAT gets to the purpose of my question.

Why do you want to commit to this?

It is certainly the tougher road.

Your H is very confused and is not going to get better until he decides to get help. He will keep thinking he has a the best plan for himself like get rid of all his stressors... Or become a unicorn farmer.

It doesn't matter. It won't work until he gets help.

What do you mean by "help"? Like meds/therapy?

Thanks for your reply in advance.

I am not a mental health professional but what you are describing here is someone who has had mental/emotional problems that either have been diagnosed and he is in denial or have not been because he refuses to see that he needs help.

He still thinks it's what drops out of the sky on him or it's something that he can control.

Sometimes he thinks it's you.

Your life together that makes him feel bad.

When it is all his own illness/dysfunction/crisis.

You didn't break him and you can't fix him.

You also can't rescue him or enable him.

Have you read the info on here on detachment? you can also search that term and get some good info on it.

THAT is you first step Gurl.

Detachment.