Thank you AnotherStander for such a detailed response to my situation.

I response to your question whether the violent episode caused the miscarriage I don't know how I would ever know the answer to this. I have also wondered things myself but not sure what knowing the answer would really achieve.

I don't think things were that physical to cause this directly but the stress or anything may or may not have had an impact.

The nurses said nobody should blame themselves and miscarriages can happen for numerous reasons. So I don't thing I can ever know the answer and whether it really would achieve anything by knowing.

When I talk about being "determined to save my marriage" I do mean on my own by becoming a better person and doing the right things, being the best I can be, I didn't mean I was still trying to involve my wife. I just want to to the right things that might make reconciliation more likely.

When I said I feel I now have the resources to make this marriage successful, I also meant my new marriage. I know my old relationship is over and I believe I now have the knowledge, tools & resources to create a new better relationship.


Me: 34, Wife: 34
Son: 2
Married: 8, Together: 14
Wife moved out 8/25/2013
Divorce papers received 01/10/2014