Yes, I am learning that. Since he basically disappeared for eight months, I thought he was gone, gone. And I found that I was OK. I found strength in learning that a few small kibbles thrown my way were not worth the hassle.
And then he just reappeared - with determination!
Not only did I get a reply to my text later last evening, but it appears that he tried to call me as well. It was his BDay, so I can see him being a little antsy, especially since it does not appear that he had plans (or so he said). If GF is around, doesn't sound like a great celebration. I always made a big deal out of birthdays. Last year nearing the time when we were truly winding down, I refused.
For me, I am at the beginning but with far less desperation and emotion. Even after realizing he called, I didn't really feel anything. So there is another truth, the MLCer does start looking back toward the LBS when the LBS lets go.
This first conversation, whenever that happens is going to be darn awkward. I don't (for my sake) want it to turn into a rag session but it will be even stranger to pretend that everything is fine and that it hasn't been eight months since we last spoke. I wonder who will bring up the GF first?
I am in such a different place. I now am sure of what I want and need in a life-partner. And I am positive of the lifestyle that I want to live. If this journey forces a person to take some time and truly discover what it is that YOU want, it has done that for me. Are there things I need to work on, yes. But my core is the same as it ever was. Had this ended quickly, we me agreeing (had he asked) to live the white picket fence life, I likely would have been the one bolting or unhappy.
