I haven't posted in awhile because you really seem to be moving forward in a healthy fashion. You've really embraced the DB concepts, and while I know this isn't fast enough for your liking, the pace is exactly what you need if you're going to win this race down the road.
I'm really encouraged by your H's responses to you. No matter what fog he's in and how confused he is, he seems to understand that his actions have hurt you, and he... gulp... actually behaves as if he cares. That's way more than what most people get.
I applaud you for keeping the door open and checking your old behaviors from lurking to the forefront. Baby steps, baby.
Let any reconnection happen at its own pace.
Keep up the good work! I'm proud of you.
Betsey
p.s. DBing your boss shows me you get this. Pretty soon, you'll use these techniques on your teenager. Then you've cracked the code!
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
