Ok so this has now become the place I come to try to rid my head of the thoughts about my husband so I can try to focus. I am trying to do a complete 180 if the way I behaved when I first started suspecting A. I snooped, constantly asked what he was doing where he was who he was talking to texting etc..

Obviously this was a disaster. He shut me out completely and I was so focused on OW I couldn't function.

So now I don't ask anything. I understand this is taking the pressure off him. But. . Aren't I also opening the door for hin to develop a deeper connection with OW?

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15