Hanging on to the roller coaster

[CallaghanClown]

Tomorrow I plan to meet H for a 'proper' chat. This will be our first since he left. I've held strong since the day he left and been nothing but friendly and helpful.

I'm considering writing him a letter. No ILY no IMY but more I care about you and hope you get well. I will mention that I will stand by him and my kids to aid their relationship throughout his recovery. Acknowledge that I understand what a hard time he is going through and that I won't walk away during this time. Is this a good idea???

During our chat I need to cover finances, access and the paternity of this child. Would it be too much pressure to talk about his increasingly erratic and irresponsible behaviour or should I just leave him to it?