The kids have been "traumatized" by being involved (by X) in what should be adult matters. (they hold X faultless and blame me for the current stress).
My relationship with my kids will be "lifelong" and this is only a small blip in the greater scheme of things (It ain't getting ettet anytime soon: years?).
I believe:
Yesterday's session was a breakthrough as it was the first time DD has spoken to me since X was arrested and there was a lot of communication between the three of us (DD, DS and myself). Counselor said very little and the convo flowed between us.
X has done quite a number on them. DD has called me a liar and yesterday said X showed DD a text to me "proving" she had informed me of an event involving kids that she never in fact did. I didn't realize until after the session X probably created a bogus contact in her phone with my name to show DD (and probably DS) with a message I never received.
"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.