If he speaks to you like that, he has no respect for you. You cannot demand respect, but you can stand up to him disrespecting you. If it gets to that point on the phone, calmly tell him you do not appreciate being disrespected and will talk to him when he is able to speak without being vitriolic.
You immediately need to apply Sandi's 37 rules. Be mysterious. Wait a few days in between calling him back. Act as if you're happy without him. He needs to feel like he is losing you. You need to detach a bit more. Don't answer his calls for a few days. As many on the board have shared, if he files for divorce, it's not the end of the fight.
What kind of 180's have you done? What can you do now to immediately improve your quality of life and yourself as a person?
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
