Remember Cass...my "hot girl"? Well, well. There's been some interesting developments and twists along the way.
We first met way back in early October in a small group setting and it was fun getting to know her. After a long radio silence from me, I reached out to Cass by stating that I really enjoyed the gallery walk and would like to return the favor by inviting her to an art auction preview sometime in mid-Nov. After some back and forth, it turned out that she was not available due to a previous commitment to attend a friend's birthday party. It was during this time that I learned that Cass had broken up with her GF [close to a month ago].
Fast forward. She contacts me the day before the art preview stating that she's available. With some additional details on the timeline, it turned out that she couldn't attend the preview any way. A few days later, I came up with a suggestion to attend an intercolleigate volleyball game with two rival state programs that date way, way, way back going at it. This part is where it gets really interesting.
After informing Cass that I had secured tickets to the game, I later learn from her that she was given some free tickets. I asked how many she had and she reported that thhere were 5. Asked me about the number of tickets I had which was 2. A part of me wanted to control the situation and tell her to return those 5 tickets. I decided to STFU and that's when Cass made a revelation by volunteering some info. Then she goes on to state that she cannot wait for me to meet her friends...especially 'Ashley.' Aft first, I thought it was her teen daughter. Nope...it was "my GF of two weeks today!" [this happened last week]
My initial reaction to the news was interesting to say the least. "Hey! We were supposed to work toward a date together. I was supposed to be your next romantic date. Blah, blah." Felt agitiated at that revelation for about 3 days.
Guess what? I decided to take a firm hold of my emotions and park it elsewhere so I can take a hard look at the situation objectively. During this process, I've made some intriguing discoveries.
1) It is NO surprise that Cass was 'nabbed up' so quickly as she is a very, very attractive woman. I can see why from my own vantage point of view. 2) Okay...this is a possibly "rebound" relationship for Cass. Which is good in a way that 'Ashley' will bear the brunt of whatever angst Cass may be working through herself. I don't want to deal with the aftermath stuff. Been there, done that with my last GF. [Cheshire cat grin] 3) This takes the pressure off from me and us. Which is GOOD. Why? This will allow for a genuine friendship to develop between Cass and I organically.
The result? All of the anxeity and agitiation disappeared immediately after I had the self-talk about the above 3 main points. I'm perfectly okay with all this.
A very freeing feeling. And it's awesome!!
BTW: The game is on the day before Thanksgiving and there's been a 3-month interval since we first met each other.
