Kate, Welcome to the MLC Forum. I've been following your thread over in Newcomers for a while. First, have you been checked out by a physician? Even though you both aren't dating, you don't know what he may have picked up along the way and I would want to make sure that I am healthy. Please don't put this off. Far too many times, I've seen the mlcer tell the spouse that they've not been dating and later on...bam! The lbs has contracted the gift that keeps on giving.
Your h is a very confused man right now and doesn't know which end is up, i.e., his rocking and back and forth w/gfs and planning his future.
For now, just leave him be, listen and validate. He's got some issues he has to work through. Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly and the answers will come and btw lots of patience is required when dealing w/the mlcers.
I have an annual coming up and will asked to be tested for sure. We do use condoms
I have asked that H not plan a future out loud to me, he is an out loud talker lol, as opposed to an in my head talker. I set very few boundaries-this was one. The other is lying, whether by omission or boldly.
LOL! "The gift that keeps on giving...." That made me laugh. Not that I haven't heard it before,but it is what I needed today, thanks
Originally Posted By: LoisB
Ok, so we will be best friends. You sound funny. I like funny. Welcome to the boards.
I'm going to use that imagery. What about a porta-potty? I'm feeling a lil angry this week.
Much Love and Welcome,
Heather
How about a shared bathroom down the hall? I am cycling a bit this week myself
One day I'll tell you about the Whack-A-Spouse game...a lot like Whack-A-Mole
Thank you for the welcome and sometimes, I find my situation so unreal and so bizarre that all I can do is laugh
