Kate, Welcome to the MLC Forum. I've been following your thread over in Newcomers for a while. First, have you been checked out by a physician? Even though you both aren't dating, you don't know what he may have picked up along the way and I would want to make sure that I am healthy. Please don't put this off. Far too many times, I've seen the mlcer tell the spouse that they've not been dating and later on...bam! The lbs has contracted the gift that keeps on giving.
Your h is a very confused man right now and doesn't know which end is up, i.e., his rocking and back and forth w/gfs and planning his future.
For now, just leave him be, listen and validate. He's got some issues he has to work through. Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly and the answers will come and btw lots of patience is required when dealing w/the mlcers.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
