How to convince resistant LD wife?

[Ambivalent]

SSMG,

If my H. had said he wanted a F-buddy or whatever, I too would have seen it as sex, and not intimacy.

With mine , it is about connecting, feeling desired/needed/wanted. When he opened up about needing to be touched and not wanting to beg, while crying at the C's, it broke my heart! I saw what it meant, and that I was clueless and had to take charge of my libido, my role.

It was about loving my husband. If I didn't love him, I would have not been so affected. If I didn't love him, I wouldn't have done the research and constant education about me, and men, and techniques and how to arouse myself!

Where you may be at present...she doesn't understand at all.

Now , your libido may be much higher even when she was interested. Back then you seemed to handle the difference, so if you got back to close to what it was, could you accept it?

Could you not talk about it? Also, have you initiated out of the bedroom? Like in the car, park, woods, in your office?
That is far more stimulating to me, than the OLD bedroom!

I don't like the girlfriend thing either, and I believe it would just hurt me and I would feel enormous pressure.