When it comes to Thanksgiving, you are the one with the choice. If you have been invited to the In-laws and you want to celebrate WITH your children, then go! Do not let him dictate to you what you will and will not do. Act "as if" everything is fine and go! Let him choose to brood, and really think about HIS choice . What holidays will be like without his family and what HE is giving up.
I invited my bro-in-law because it was what we have done for over 30 years. It isn't his fault that his brother is having struggles. It isn't my girls fault either, so why should WE change our tradition for his issues? By the way , H decided to come.
Hang in there...<3
Formerly Workinprogress H :55 M :over 29 yrs. Together : 33 D : college D : adult BD and left : May 2013 Separated Experimenting/Replay
