Thanks everyone for your comments. Early this morning W sends me a text asking to sit down and hammer out a separation/divorce agreement. She is hoping we can do this without getting attorneys involved and save money. I told her we could try, and it would be a good time to discuss finances.

I guess she felt like she was getting too close. It still hurts every time she does this.

M - 42
W- 37
S's - 9,6
M-12
T-14
FIL- diagnosed with fatal disease spring 2011
ILYBNILWY - march '12
FIL - died jan '13
W Moved out week later