I feel like Raine is taking a lot of heat for expecting transparency - and I'm not so sure she should be.
Yes, while dealing with an individual in crisis, we know to keep those expectations at zero.
But what about a couple who is reconciled?
I think as the LBS, we spend so long dealing with no expectations, that we forget - a normal, healthy relationship SHOULD have expectations.
If I ever get there (fingers crossed, lol!), I would expect my H to be honest , faithful, loving, devoted, caring, and willing to do the work to make our marriage a good one. Am I wrong for that? I don't think so.
I have said this before, and I continue to believe it is true..
THERE IS NO ROOM FOR SECRETS AND LIES IN A MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP.
If someone is lying/hiding something, there's usually a reason why.
I realize we all have our limits, all have our own defining things that we need in a relationship.
Raine, only you truly know what you need and what you can live with. And that is more than okay
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
