I feel like such an idiot. I thought I saw a few baby steps today and was feeling a little hopeful. He called me at work this afternoon to ask me something about son. It really wasn't important and could have waited. This was the first time he has initiated contact during the day in weeks. Then he called again to say he was picking up food and did I want anything.

I got home tonight and noticed that my jewelry box was open and when I checked his wedding ring was gone. (He has arthritis and wore his ring on a leather strap around his neck. In late sept I found it in the bathroom with the strap ripped. At the time I assumed he had ripped it off on purpose. I told him I had it and that I was keeping it safe in case he ever wanted to wear it again)

So I ask him why he took his ring and he gets all defensive- what was I doing with it anyway and its his and he can do whatever he wants and then just stares me down like he is waiting for a fight. I said "you are right its yours" he got pissed and hid out in basement.

Just now he came up and said he was going for a ride. I asked him where and he said he was going to drive. This was his pattern. He would pick a fight with me and then storm out for a "drive" I had circumstantial evidence he was going to see OW.

Well I have been working hard in not reacting in the moment so we haven't had any fights in the last 2 weeks. As a result he has stayed here every night. Not with me but here

And now this. I am so hurt. Does this have anything to do with ring?

Last tine he went for a drive I called and texted a million times. I definitely will not do that even though I an concerned since he has had a drink.

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15