Portia - these are strange men. My xh is now a strange mixture of being nice and mean. I recently got a message to tell me he hoped I wasn't taking a long drive north in heavy rain. WTF? (I had mentioned that I was driving back to spend time with family , and he got the times wrong, which I admit to being vague about Unless he doesn't want me to get killed or injured while he thinks I still owe him money! LOL)
He wants to play happy families with OW2 and me and the kids. Ummm not really my scene.
They never really go away - well most of them. They go for months at a time, and then they come back and some of them reconnect, and others just mess with our heads. But it is all unfinished business.