It's Not Over 'Till It's Over

[Fight4MyWife]

Well in between submitting my original post and it being approved and appearing on here there have been some further developments, which I could have done with some advice on the best way to handle before.

I was concerned about how to handle the mediation process and whether or not I should take the approach to just agree to everything she asks in order to show love for my wife and show willing to meet her needs rather than my own.

I was under the impression that my wife wanted mediation to discuss our finances which I would probably just agree to split 50/50 anyway.

However I was unsure whether the subject of divorce might come up and also whether she might ask me to move out of our marital home so she can live there with our son. I was unsure of the best way to approach these 2 issues as just agreeing to move out of the house and/or divorce I would find difficult. I can see though that by disagreeing to these things would actually cause a disconnection between us and possible make reconciliation more unlikely.

This was my dilemma and still my main area for concern and advice.

I actually could not get all the information together in the short time they gave me for the mediation meeting, as well as being very costly having to close my business to attend, so I tried to postpone the meeting until January when my business slows down.

I then got a phone call from my wife and she ended up asking me on the phone about me moving out of the marital home so she can live there.

I wasn't prepared for this discussion and whether I should really agree to this or not, part of me wants to show love & meet her needs & part of me thinks it was her decision to leave.

So I ended up not agreeing to it, which made her angry and she ended up just saying I would hear from her solicitor then. I feel extremely disappointed as it feels like I have just undone much of the good work and discipline from over the past month.

Any advice on whether I am doing the right or wrong thing by staying in the marital home would be appreciated.

Also on the subject of divorce, I can see how standing my ground on these issues and not agreeing could actually end up pushing her further away.