Where am I at pt 2

[S4tk]

Ice,

I think Sandi has some good points. Read her post a few times.

You asked what I meant by, "in a way that looks more like DBing." For example, if you need to go out for a breather so you don't lose your cool with her, then you don't need to tell her that's what you are doing. That seems manipulative and it is a way of initiating or forcing a conversation about the relationship. It also lets her know that you are unhappy and in the verge of losing it. It communicates a clinginess or codependence to her, which she doesn't want right now.

Does that make sense?

Also, with the 2am pickup, that seems weird. If you are referring to your S8, it doesn't seem healthy to make him wake up once a week in the middle of the night for handoffs. Maybe you need to gently lay your foot down on that one.