I was talking to W on the phone a few days ago and asked how she's doing, she said she's been getting really scatter-brained and forgetful lately. She said she was driving with D16 on a road she's been on hundreds of times going to her house and she forgot to take the turn, then went blank and no longer knew where she was. She had to get D16 to tell her where they were and where she needed to go. It scared her that she just completely lost track of very familiar territory like that.
D16 shared the exact story with me later that day, and the details were the same. D16 also said she's told W several times that she's "crazy", and that one time she said it W broke down and started crying. D16 asked her why she was crying and she said because she feels like she IS going crazy.
I asked W what she thought was going on and she said the doc told her it was from the radiation treatments. I can't imagine why radiation targeted at the side of her breast would affect her mind though. I asked her if she was on any medication and she said yes, I asked her how long she would need to take it and she said 5 years!!! I did validate, telling her that it sounds frustrating and asking her if there was anything I could do. But I also suggested she describe it fully to her doctor to see if maybe a medication adjustment is warranted.
It may not even be the medication, who knows. It could be the menopause she's going through, or the radiation, or the meds, or some combination of those, or something else. One would think she'd start to realize that all of this stuff that's happening to her is not my "fault" since we've been S'd over a year and things just continue to deteriorate for her. But so far there's no indication that she's coming out of the fog in that respect.
Originally Posted By: BrightFuture
AS, isn’t it something that you meat a lot of people who’s spouses wanted to come back after a couple of years or so. Maybe it is a sign .
I do like these stories but I find it extremely difficult to have any hope for my sitch. Whatever is happening to W is transforming her into someone else, someone who has no love for me or our history together. I don't think she'll ever be her "old self" again.
Originally Posted By: sayitaintso
My stbx's 1st affair partner(I think it was the 1st) was a neighbor and close friend of ours. His wife reached out to me a few times and wanted to get some revenge. I thought about it but declined also.
ROTFLOL! Revenge isn't the answer, but it's fun to think about, heh heh! No I'm kidding, I don't feel any need for revenge against my W, I really feel bad for what she's going through. I wish there was something I could do, but it's her journey.
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