Hi 3, your H has realized now that you have boundaries and he sees them...otherwise he wouldn't be asking so much if this is ok and if that's ok. Good for you for being polite but firm.

I think by his asking you about what should he do and texting you about the kids with non-critical stuff is he is testing you...trying to see if you are still there. Personally I would be very selective about which ones I answered. He needs to know what it will be like if you are NOT THERE. And seriously only answer if you feel like it. If YOU feel like it.

Stick to your boundaries, you can do this.

Me:49 H:47
S: 16
T:27 M:25
My EA: 2001
His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013
Separated, but H still in house

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