I would continue without sending her that letter or telling her that. I would not bring up R talks. "IF" she does at some point, then that might be OK to say.

Try not to let the excitement of a positive change your course or speed.

Look at what you said about waiting for her to offer the hug, it was worth the wait.

Keep doing what you are, it is hard not to want more and push for reassurance.

M46,W41
D16,D18
M22,T25
BD 11/12
W moved out 01/13
Piecing 10/13
Divorced 01/15
"Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can."
UrWorthy