How to convince resistant LD wife?

[Ambivalent]

Sounds very cool! Obviously, from my point of view, he's a fool! If only my wife could be where you are in this process.

Remember, I didn't get here before he walked out the door! I thought he was okay. I thought because he was having ed issues he didn't pursue me. I feel awful that he was feeling what was later revealed. Now he's out there doing what he needs to do.

Wouldn't be surprised if my wife felt the same way. For some of us HD men with few inhibitions about our own bodies, we probably don't fully understand that shame. I never felt an ounce of shame in that regard, ever. The more pleasure, the better. And so we think women should think the same way.

Shame comes from many sources. I thought I was fat, because my mother would make constant comments about my weight. I was NOT fat! You could count my ribs, I was/am an hour glass figure, nice shaped rear. But I heard her voice in my head, and the seventies ideal model was emaciated. So my perception was WAAAAY off.

Since the fashion world is run by women and gay men, they contributed a ton of damage to many in my generation. Add to that stress of being a mom, and sexual ignorance, embarrassment, well you get the picture. The whole women's lib thing didn't help either. God what we do to ourselves.

NOT anymore for me. I'm going to enjoy chocolate cake again some day.