LJC, I wouldn't try to dissect it or think three moves ahead. I would just look at it as an invitation and decide what *you* would like to do, and what you would think would be best for your kids.
If you want to go to MIL's and think it will make you happy, then do it and just go without any baggage about what it means or what might happen next.
If you don't want to go, then politely decline and make other plans.
The only way you lose here is if you go to either (1) appease W even though you don't really want to and then can't handle it and are depressing to be around, or (2) appease W in the hopes that it will be the first step on a path to reconciliation and get your hopes up.
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
