Alright - I retract the "loser" from this thread. It wasn't serious and I certainly did not mean to imply doing stuff by yourself means you are one. Over the last 5 years I have certainly done the same amount if not more things on my own than I have with someone else (either on a date or with just a friend). I think last night was a initially a bit different for me in that it was supposed to have been a date with Barbara (at least that was the plan) so I was dealing a little bit with that. In fact I was almost inclined not to go, but decided that I really wanted to hear this performance and I would have a good time going even if by myself - which I did.
I am more of an extrovert (ESFJ is my MBTI) and enjoy the company of others. So while I am perfectly capable of doing things on my own, for me - I tend to enjoy doing things with someone versus by myself. On that note, I'm heading to the CAPs game tonight with Marianne. So I should be happy that I've had the best of both worlds this weekend - something done on my own and an outing with a friend.
Gineen - it sounds like 2014 is going to be your year to get finances and hopefully your love life in order! I hope to join you, at least in getting my love life in order. I'm ready for the permanent relationship, it just has to be with the right person and that will happen.
GG - Yea for you!!! He better spoil and treat you right - afterall that is what YOU deserve! I hope all continues to go well for you.
It's not uncommon to struggle at your age, especially when you are on your own. My son, B, is about your age and despite getting a new, better paying job - he still struggles - & he has no dependents.
But, like GG & KML - I met Josh on a free dating site.
GG - if u have any of us on FB - you can find Gineen on our Friends List. I'm really happy that you have found someone who makes you happy.
BA - sounds like a good weekend regardless - good for you.
Josh & I spent the day at the beach on Sanibel. As we headed back to the car he suddenly jumped towards me with his arms spread and yelled STOP! It didn't take long for me to realize he was trying to prevent my encounter with the snake that was crossing the path. He's my hero! Back at the condo he set up my new printer that is compatible with my IPad & Iphone. Nice - because I didn't bring my laptop. Sadly, the first printing was of his boarding pass - he is on his way home.
Wii - did you watch SNL last night? It was hilarious! It opened by changing the screen to CBC. Kinda weird when you're watching from Florida
BA, I wasn't offended by your remark. I was just stating my opinion on doing things alone. There's good times in being alone or being with someone else. Life is great if we can appreciate whatever place we find ourselves to be in at any given time...unless you're the Mayor of Toronto lol.
Touche, Wii. Right there with ya. Right now, I'm just trying to be happy exactly where I am. A couple of clients are making that difficult, but oh well. I'm still standing...
Barb - that SNL skit certainly was hilarious. I loved the press conferences. LOL. They've always had a knack for making the irreverent even more so.
Golf Girl - Awesome! Heck, send me your profile so I know what to say in January if I go back on. I'm so happy for you!
BA - Glad you and your ESFJ self got out there this weekend. My ESTJ self holed up pretty much all weekend (except for D16's hippotherapy on Saturday afternoon and dinner with a friend Saturday night) and watched volleyball - and the Broncos game, of course. And I feel no guilt whatsoever. I even got fed up at work on Friday, called it quits and went home to watch the first round of the D3 volleyball matches.
D19's team kind of got out of their game yesterday after losing the first set that they should have won (they were up the entire set until the 26th point). It necessitated me to break out the first Coors Light, shortly after 1 pm. That's pretty early for me nowadays. I finished the 2nd and last beer by 2:15. But I'm happy to report they are heading to the Elite 8 in Holland, Michigan, for the 2nd year in a row. Whew! I had no idea that my daughter's sport would bring me to imbibe in a super cold Coors Light (hey, they have temperature indicators on the labels now).
Since I can't get to Michigan this weekend, I had to rearrange my schedule so I can watch the live stream. I'm moving stuff around left and right to make sure my a$$ is in front of a computer at the right time.
Anyone want to change their opinion of a loser?
Gineen - BTW, I'm also right there with you on the getting fit/being naked thing. Like you, I have a real fondness for chocolate chip cookies (and dough), especially when there's zero chance of someone seeing my fat arse without clothes. It's also why I bought my FitBit. I've become a little lax, but only because Mr. W. has been traveling and my ability to walk while having D16 has been severely curtailed. I've been walking at lunch, but it just isn't the same as one of my hour sprints. I'm missing it.
BA, looks like it's time to start a new thread... now, what should the title be?
Okay, back to work. I'm a day late and a dollar short already.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Remember Cass...my "hot girl"? Well, well. There's been some interesting developments and twists along the way.
We first met way back in early October in a small group setting and it was fun getting to know her. After a long radio silence from me, I reached out to Cass by stating that I really enjoyed the gallery walk and would like to return the favor by inviting her to an art auction preview sometime in mid-Nov. After some back and forth, it turned out that she was not available due to a previous commitment to attend a friend's birthday party. It was during this time that I learned that Cass had broken up with her GF [close to a month ago].
Fast forward. She contacts me the day before the art preview stating that she's available. With some additional details on the timeline, it turned out that she couldn't attend the preview any way. A few days later, I came up with a suggestion to attend an intercolleigate volleyball game with two rival state programs that date way, way, way back going at it. This part is where it gets really interesting.
After informing Cass that I had secured tickets to the game, I later learn from her that she was given some free tickets. I asked how many she had and she reported that thhere were 5. Asked me about the number of tickets I had which was 2. A part of me wanted to control the situation and tell her to return those 5 tickets. I decided to STFU and that's when Cass made a revelation by volunteering some info. Then she goes on to state that she cannot wait for me to meet her friends...especially 'Ashley.' Aft first, I thought it was her teen daughter. Nope...it was "my GF of two weeks today!" [this happened last week]
My initial reaction to the news was interesting to say the least. "Hey! We were supposed to work toward a date together. I was supposed to be your next romantic date. Blah, blah." Felt agitiated at that revelation for about 3 days.
Guess what? I decided to take a firm hold of my emotions and park it elsewhere so I can take a hard look at the situation objectively. During this process, I've made some intriguing discoveries.
1) It is NO surprise that Cass was 'nabbed up' so quickly as she is a very, very attractive woman. I can see why from my own vantage point of view. 2) Okay...this is a possibly "rebound" relationship for Cass. Which is good in a way that 'Ashley' will bear the brunt of whatever angst Cass may be working through herself. I don't want to deal with the aftermath stuff. Been there, done that with my last GF. [Cheshire cat grin] 3) This takes the pressure off from me and us. Which is GOOD. Why? This will allow for a genuine friendship to develop between Cass and I organically.
The result? All of the anxeity and agitiation disappeared immediately after I had the self-talk about the above 3 main points. I'm perfectly okay with all this.
A very freeing feeling. And it's awesome!!
BTW: The game is on the day before Thanksgiving and there's been a 3-month interval since we first met each other.
Hey Wonka - I'm rooting for you and here's hoping both our "hot" women find their way back to us! So are you going to the volleyball game with her and her group of friends?
Yup. The seven of us are all going out to dinner at a restaurant before heading out to the VB game.
Bets,
It was a split-second recognition of what was happening in my noggin before I stopped myself from doing some self-inflicted damage! All thanks to DBing skills.
So are you going to the volleyball game with her and her group of friends? 