I said, that i understood why she feels upset about D and that it will certainly be something to address if she decides that permanent separation is what she wants. (divorce)
I instead suggested that she could use this space and time to find out what is going to make her happy, and ultimately if she wants to continue this marriage or start her own life.
She kept asking "what should I do?" and i told her that i can't make the decision for her, and that i'm not expecting her to know the answer right now. I know she needs time.
(I dont know if this was selfish or not) I said, I know you love your daughter, and its hard to think of what it would be like without her, but maybe something to think about, is what you need to do to keep the family in tact for her..
Lastly, I let her know that I know this isn't easy, and that she had a lot of tough decisions to work through, but in the end they were her decisions to make.
