Portia, in my case there was no known OW and I don’t know what my reaction would be to cheating as opposed to abandonment. I ask myself this question all the time, what would be worse. When I was traveling for work, my H used to check up on me if I arrived to my destination safely. It stopped right after the BD. It felt like he just stopped caring. And this hurt a lot. Still does.
I like Bea’s interpretation… Stiff language, haha.
Hang in there, Portia. It must be so hard to go through these challenging times with your parent.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state