I believe this makes the second time (maybe more) that she's brought up that remark about you being the happiest the past months. She's doing it b/c it really stuck in her craw! She wasn't the one who had to go through hoops.....YOU were! It is eating her alive b/c you are happy and she's not in control.
She has used the children to get at every emotion you have. Even when she hinted that she wanted her family back....what did she do? Certainly not any actual work on the R, but she used the kids as leverage to work on your feelings toward getting her family again. When she wants something from you or tries to soften you up for more torture later....she sends more pictures. She is one more piece of work! She couldn't even hold out for three weeks to try to look like she was serious about wanting her family back? I guess it took one more time for you to see her operate.
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It's a bit like rewarding a kids bad behaviour.
Absolutely! And, that's exactly what she acts like.....an overgrown kid with very bad behavior. Besides, she knew exactly what she was doing by having OM2 there. If you had not reacted in anger, she would have been sooooo disappointed. But, you had good reason and considering all she's put you through, I think you kept it together much better than I ever could.
I am glad you have grown enough that you don't need to prove anything to her or yourself by taking her away from OM2. If anyone understands a temporary ego fix....it's me. It's not worth it (as I think you said in your post). You are a confident man and there's no need to play those silly games. Sure she wants men fighting over her b/c her mind operates like she's in junior high. It's all she knows. As she gets older, it's going to be quite unflattering to see her still acting the same.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
