How do i react when she keeps saying that she doesn't want to lose her daughter?
She says that she feels like because she is away, that if it came to a divorce the court would make it look like she "abandoned" her.
This is not at all what i want. I want to be a family #1. But #2, if we cannot be a family, I would NEVER take her away from her.
She is a GREAT mom. Do I play this close to the chest? or do I express that this isnt' something she should be worrying about, and that i would never keep them apart, and that she needs to focus on what she wants right now?
Play it close to your chest.
I'm not saying you need to seem like you might turn into a jerk if she moves forward with divorce, I'm just saying she needs to think about these things and feel the weight of her choices on her own. If you start a pattern of insulating her from her decisions - making her feel better and reassuring her - how will she be able to make an informed decision on which life to choose?
-PM
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