Try to look at the text and see if it fits the cycle you have with your W.

My W and I would text each other to get the other to respond in a certain way, it was our codependency in action. Once you step outside and can see your cycle, you can work to break it.

If the text felt like it was pushing your buttons, then I would ignore it.

If the text is more that she is putting something on herself, then validate, but don't fix or take the blame away.

M46,W41
D16,D18
M22,T25
BD 11/12
W moved out 01/13
Piecing 10/13
Divorced 01/15
"Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can."
UrWorthy