JF and Pudmuddle - it's taken me a while but I appreciate you dropping by, I have made a few decisions and had a lot of unwanted thoughts, but it would seem I am heading in the right direction.
I visited my C today - as we were talking he stopped, looked at me and said "I feel like I've been hit by a ton of bricks" I looked at him????? He said " for the first time since we met (a year ago) you are talking about what YOU want to do, how you are going to do it and looking out for yourself"
I am stressed with all that is going on, but have I reached a turning point? I hope so.