[quote=PatientMan] We were in her kitchen face to face. She was telling me about wanting to work on us. She said she was the happiest she had been in a while. She paused and I thought she had finished. I said "I'm the happiest I have been in a long time too." She responded with "I was going to say, I'm the happiest I've been but I miss you. The boys need you too"
I believe she took offence to me saying that (being happy without her) and it spurred her on back to OM.
I was the happiest I had been because I took myself out of limbo.
Why do you ask?
Because she was unclear as to why you were happy. I wondered if it was another text message exchange, which I would then have scolded you for.
I think your analysis is pretty good. She seems entitled and reactionary. You've made great progress on making yourself whole and she's still trying to figure out what to fill that hole in her life with. Huge difference between you two.
And you may be right. Some people need that divorce to actually go through before the old relationship can die in their minds and make way for a new one to grow.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
