It's only fear that makes you run

[Whiterose]

Thank you for your comments bea and wbw

I am most definitely not invited and the boys know that.

That's interesting you say that bea......his family is a barely if functioning family and, I now see, his dad suffered from an mlc for years. Many E and PA which also drove my mil to have a PA. His family's attitude is "oh that's too bad but as long as H is happy that's all that matters". I guess his attitude with his siblings is much the same as yours wbw. His parents have declared bankruptcy 3 times but there would be times of abundance as well. Mishandled and broke again. His sisters coddle him constantly......used to make me nuts! I used to say something along the lines as you're different from your family. You and I both spoke too soon I guess

My boys fight like crazy but are also best friends, deep down, I see it......it brings me a lot of comfort to know that they truly watch out for each other. Especially, S19, who's taken S14 under his wing.....I just need to watch that he doesn't take over dad role.....it's a fine line. Great blessing wbw!

I'll be with my family on Christmas Eve and I'm so happy the boys have decided to sleep with me to wake up here on Christmas Day, although H has made no move to ask for them to do so, and brunch with my sister and dinner with my parent's is already set. It just makes me so very terribly sad to think of them there without me.....