Hmm. My situation may be a bit different than yours. I was very clear with my H that I DID want to have a good sexual relationship with him.
OK, that is quite different from my situation. If my wife had said that, I would have jumped on it and listened to what she had to say very carefully.
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...if he had said he was going to get a girlfriend to have sex with, I would most likely have thought he was a complete ass. The fact that he wanted a D showed me that he was/is hurt, not that he's just trying to figure out how he can get laid.
Interesting contrast. We have a good relationship, but no sex. So the sex part is the only thing that's missing. So, I can sort of see how that puts me in the position of being an ass -- the only thing that's missing is sex, and so because that's the only thing "extra" I want, that makes me an ass in my wife's eyes, especially if I say I want to go out and get a girlfriend for just that part. What a logical conundrum. Catch 22.
