Just like you all mentioned, my new challenge is to keep going. My H is going to give me a run for my money trying to enforce these boundaries.
Not much changed yesterday since Sunday was our scheduled family day. H was supposed to come for lunch before heading to an event with our son. H sent a text asking if it was ok to shower at the house or if he should get ready first and then come over (he had been out biking). I sent a text back saying "I would just get ready real fast and then head over." After dinner, he asked about the upcoming week and whether I wanted him to cover over early. He said that he knows that it much better for me to leave early so that I can get to work, get everything done and be back for the kids. I told him that we are set and that he can just pick up the kiddos for school. I tried to be appreciative and friendly, but firm. This is new for my because I always cave to make others happy.
The hard part is that H is never mean. I know that he is trying to help me (and himself). But I really need to make sure that I can do this on my own. If he decides to leave the M, I cannot depend upon him on a daily basis.
Here is where I need some advice. H has been texting me about the kids. It is nothing that I actually need to respond to (not logistics related). I have responded to these texts about the kids and I think that I should continue to do so in order to maintain some connection. I dont want to shut him out completely. Any recommendations?
