She has noticed the changes i am making and recently she did make advances which resulted in husband wife activities even though i was advised thst it was just an itch that needed scratching.
HH, PLEASE be careful with this, and either abstain from sex with your wife or use a condom if you do. If she is indeed in an affair with another man, there is a chance it has become physical and you need to protect your health.
Sorry to be so blunt, but it bears warning as we've all seen many people on this very forum jeopardize their own health with some bad results.
My advice would be to calmly confront your wife, let her know that "I know all about you and ______, and you need to know that I won't share you with another man or live in an open marriage," and then DROP IT and proceed to GAL. Pursuing her or acting supplicating around her will only annoy her at best, and have her seeing you as week and needy at worst, and that's not attractive.
If you're to have any hope right now you need to first work on re-building ATTRACTION, but to be honest (again), she's probably not going to respond to any of that until she rids herself of OM.
