You sound so strong Linda. I really do think you have a great understanding of what is going on with your H. I can only imagine that the RT will do something crazy to bring it all to a head with your H. It's so funny to think he is content with her behavior even now. I question my H's taste in the Floormop he has picked out, she seems to have a quick temper.
Sorry about your eye, I will send my positive thoughts your way that it heals quickly so you can get your next surgery.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
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