Just being involved generally. In the lives of my children, in conversation, in activities. I was a tag along standing to the side in most cases a year ago.
Just being happy about being alive and knowing that no single event, person, conversation is going to take away my happiness or dictate my own feelings to me.
That unfriendly, moody, angry person is left behind, because I realize that if I can survive BD and the aftermath, I can make it through just about anything. I think that's the biggest epiphany for me. Life is way too short to not be friendly and happy. I can't imagine getting up with the sour look that I had a year ago.
Okay, so maybe it is just because you haven't outwardly answered a lot of questions, maybe you have inwardly, and that is okay too....
Maybe it is because I can't resist sticking a stick in the nest ?
Yea, probably the second one..... : )
My question to most of this....is WHY...
Why were you in the background ??
Why were you unfriendly ??
Why did you have the "sour look" ???
Originally Posted By: JFun51
That old guy is one of the reasons that my M reached the point that it has. I don't like him at all.
Perspective. That is how I keep him away. I talk about "controlling the controllable" in my job all the time. Applying it to my entire life is awesome.
Just "keeping him away" may not be enough when old triggers are pulled, and old buttons are pushed...
It is great that to keep him under control, and you may be okay with just locking him in the attic. What happens one day when he starts pounding on the ceiling because a trigger has been pulled, and the more that you try to fight him, the louder he pounds, until he finally breaks through the ceiling, and falls on your noggin ???
What then ???
How will you know when he is gone for good ???
The test of time ???
Waiting until the ceiling begins to rattle ???
How convenient would that be for you ???
Are you willing to take that chance ???
It is kind of keeping a clean yard....
To keep weeds out, would you just cut the top off of a dandelion ???
Or would you dig up the root, to ensure that it doesn't come back ???
