Hi all. I'm new here.

[melissag]

Melissag... Are there things you tell yourself from telling your h to get off the phone? Like no good will come of it or do you just bite the bullet and go with it til he's gone? I need some sort of mantra. I think ill stick with, no good will come... Or maybe, she's gonna have a hissy fit and then I'm gonna feel horrible afterwards and want to cry because I've just taken a step back! That's a bit long though. Better stick with no good will come.

Well, I don't have the issue of OP in my situation, so I'm not so much jealous or worried about what he is doing as I am just feeling disrespected and not good enough. I ask myself whether bitching at him about it is going to do any good, and no, it won't. Right now you can't be nagging or controlling or trying to get her to change anything. Anything you say on this will be met with anger, and it will only make her feel better about her decision to be done with you. Do you want to give her more ammo in her war against you? I sure as hell don't. MWD says you should do something different, right? I am guessing that if you complain about the phone, it would be more of the same. Don't give her more of the same. Show her a different side of you. Also, complaining about the phone shows her you are insecure - not attractive. If you say nothing, she will eventually notice, and she will wonder what's up. Either she will just see that you are different (and better), or maybe she will think "gee, doesn't he care who I am texting??" It's possible that she will even test you on this and start texting in an exaggerated way just to annoy you. You just have to laugh at this and remind yourself you are cool and confident, and you're not going to give her what she wants, which is more of the same.