When she told you OM fought for her.... she doesn't understand she left you, it isn't all that easy trusting again and you'd need some time to do so. Also she'd have to be single for that process to even start.

I didn't get a chance to catch up on the last few pages of your previous thread...but it does seem that since you were unsure about your feelings you didn't communicate fully how you were feeling to her and didn't let her know what all of the boundaries/conditions would be for you to consider returning.

I'd say this would need to have been thought of ahead of time as none of us know when our spouses will peek out of their fog.

She sounds like she's not ready to do the work it takes as she complained of jumping through hoops, but she needs to know it will not be easy if you two do move forward and as you said your self you are still angry and allow your emotions to step in on your behalf at times.

Hope this week is better for you.


me: 30 H:30
tgthr:7 m:4
no kids
5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012
long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012
official BD: July 2013
nothing filed
1/1/14 I dropped the rope