RL - I am so sorry about your eye, and hope that they will sort it out as soon as they can..
MLC plays havoc with memory - I am not sure why, but almost everyone on the Boards reports it. It isn't just the rewriting of history, but they will assert and believe events. Pre bd I thought that my xh was starting Alzheimers early, as his memory was totally shot even then. Their concentration is also poor.
For example my xh now clams that he always said that OW1 would never last, but I had an email from during the affair him saying that she was the woman he loved and intended to spend the rest of his life with. So he has rewritten his history with her too!
If you ever try to convince a MLCer they will usually say you are quoting them out of context. Thy believe what they want to believe, in short. It is a sort of magical thinking.
I heard the most wonderful quote the other day 'You are entitled to your own opinions, but you are not entitled to your own facts'
Now, a wise person told me a long time ago that a MLC relationship exists largely in the MLCers head - more than most relationships it is a projection. RT is a symbol and you are a symbol. To this day my xh does not treat me as if I were a flesh and blood human being. I can't explain it any other way, but I am not real to him. My feelings have no validity and what I say is always incorrect. I do not think he actually aware that I am a symbol to hm of all that is wrong in his life, and post divorce, when the reality is I have no impact on his life, I remain in this role.
